Thanks, Natasha Bedingfield. I find it ironic when someone other than you sings that song.
In my opinion, there are four types of love. You may disagree with some, but this is my blog, after all. So I'll write what I want, and you can read what you want.
1) Familial Love is probably the most natural thing to feel. Your family consists of the people who raised you, the ones who were there for you during the hard times and the happy times. In some cases, these people may not even be blood related and they may even include the pet. But if they are who you consider and call "family," then you'll always love them, whether you always want to or not. Familial Love is rarely unrequited. It could also hurt the most because your family is the group of people you probably hold closest. Everyone has a need to be loved - the first place to start would be in a family.
2) Friendly Love is that deep fondness you feel for the people you regularly spend time with. You understand them, they understand you. You might even feel like the same person at times. You support each other, have fun, maybe even live together at some point. You mostly feel attracted to your friends' personalities (in a non-romantic way, I'm getting to that), which is what makes you want to spend time with them so much. What you feel for them can only be described as a type of love, so you might as well admit it right now that you love them.
3) Romantic Love is often confused with lust, physical attraction, sex... (sex and love are not synonymous.) That means that you are not in love with every hot guy or girl you meet. This type of love is complicated, at best. It may be totally worth it, but it's still very complicated. You may be rejected, you may get hurt. You might just move on and forget the person you so adamantly proclaimed to be in love with. I try not to be cynical about this type of love. I see it wherever I go, and it truly is a beautiful thing. But so often it gets mixed up with other things. I don't believe in love at first sight. Why can't we just admit when we feel physically attracted to someone, and not call it "love"? Friendly Love can be taken for Romantic Love. While I agree you can be friends with the person you're in love with (actually, you probably should be), that doesn't mean you should be "in love" with all your friends. Everyone is different, so the person you fall for depends on the person you are. See? Very complicated. To say anymore on the subject would take three more blogs.
4) God's Love is the most powerful, wonderful and forgiving type of love anymore. While I put this one last on my list, it's certainly not the least. You can have no family, no friends, no "special someone," and God will still love you. You can feel indifferent about God, and He'll still love you. You can be mad at Him and feel like you hate Him, and He'll forgive you and keep loving you. You can trust that He'll never let you down, and put your whole future into His hands because He loves you. It's the most simple type of love ever. Yet people still try to fill this void with other things. It's good to have friends, family, people to share your love with. But there's nothing quite like God's Love. Again, this is something that would take five blogs just for you to get a sense of what it means to love and be loved by God. So, I guess I'll stop here before I get all preacher's kid on you.
I know you're probably wondering why I've completely disregarded a love of humanity in general. I guess that's because I don't see that as being a type of love. All of the loves I've listed above are personal. It's the love you feel for people you know. I do, however, see the point in having compassion for humankind. Compassion is a different story. You can have compassion for the people you love, and for the rest of the world. The dying children, the lonely millionaire, the soldiers, the people no one really thinks about, the people that start wars, the people that end wars, the average every day just-like-us people. It doesn't necessarily mean you "love" them all. But you can be compassionate.
I love you, I love you. That's all I've got to say. Can't think of a better way. And that's all I've got to say. I love you, is that ok?
In my opinion, there are four types of love. You may disagree with some, but this is my blog, after all. So I'll write what I want, and you can read what you want.
1) Familial Love is probably the most natural thing to feel. Your family consists of the people who raised you, the ones who were there for you during the hard times and the happy times. In some cases, these people may not even be blood related and they may even include the pet. But if they are who you consider and call "family," then you'll always love them, whether you always want to or not. Familial Love is rarely unrequited. It could also hurt the most because your family is the group of people you probably hold closest. Everyone has a need to be loved - the first place to start would be in a family.
2) Friendly Love is that deep fondness you feel for the people you regularly spend time with. You understand them, they understand you. You might even feel like the same person at times. You support each other, have fun, maybe even live together at some point. You mostly feel attracted to your friends' personalities (in a non-romantic way, I'm getting to that), which is what makes you want to spend time with them so much. What you feel for them can only be described as a type of love, so you might as well admit it right now that you love them.
3) Romantic Love is often confused with lust, physical attraction, sex... (sex and love are not synonymous.) That means that you are not in love with every hot guy or girl you meet. This type of love is complicated, at best. It may be totally worth it, but it's still very complicated. You may be rejected, you may get hurt. You might just move on and forget the person you so adamantly proclaimed to be in love with. I try not to be cynical about this type of love. I see it wherever I go, and it truly is a beautiful thing. But so often it gets mixed up with other things. I don't believe in love at first sight. Why can't we just admit when we feel physically attracted to someone, and not call it "love"? Friendly Love can be taken for Romantic Love. While I agree you can be friends with the person you're in love with (actually, you probably should be), that doesn't mean you should be "in love" with all your friends. Everyone is different, so the person you fall for depends on the person you are. See? Very complicated. To say anymore on the subject would take three more blogs.
4) God's Love is the most powerful, wonderful and forgiving type of love anymore. While I put this one last on my list, it's certainly not the least. You can have no family, no friends, no "special someone," and God will still love you. You can feel indifferent about God, and He'll still love you. You can be mad at Him and feel like you hate Him, and He'll forgive you and keep loving you. You can trust that He'll never let you down, and put your whole future into His hands because He loves you. It's the most simple type of love ever. Yet people still try to fill this void with other things. It's good to have friends, family, people to share your love with. But there's nothing quite like God's Love. Again, this is something that would take five blogs just for you to get a sense of what it means to love and be loved by God. So, I guess I'll stop here before I get all preacher's kid on you.
I know you're probably wondering why I've completely disregarded a love of humanity in general. I guess that's because I don't see that as being a type of love. All of the loves I've listed above are personal. It's the love you feel for people you know. I do, however, see the point in having compassion for humankind. Compassion is a different story. You can have compassion for the people you love, and for the rest of the world. The dying children, the lonely millionaire, the soldiers, the people no one really thinks about, the people that start wars, the people that end wars, the average every day just-like-us people. It doesn't necessarily mean you "love" them all. But you can be compassionate.
I love you, I love you. That's all I've got to say. Can't think of a better way. And that's all I've got to say. I love you, is that ok?
2 comments:
gorgeous.
tasj. i love you. hahahaaa
dearly not queerly. :D
Ugh... leaving myself a comment to avoid bad grammar.
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